In the hustle and bustle of our everyday lives it is so easy to get swept away in the stress, rush and faff that we have to contend with on a daily basis, making it so easy to lose ourselves and forget who we are . As with most hippy’s it is so easy to put your life on hold to put other people and their needs first.
We strongly believe that although this is an important part of being a good person and a good hippy, ask yourself what use are you to others, how can you help others if you do not take time for yourself and have lost who you are. Staying true to yourself should always play a major part in your life even if it is difficult and so, we thought that we would share some thoughts that might help;
Be Honest – respect yourself and respect others
Honesty really is the best policy. You must be honest you yourself and to others. Yes, sometimes honesty can cause hurt to others however, it is much worse to lie to someone even if you are trying to spare their feelings. It is just as bad lying and deceiving yourself….. sometimes it is better to say nothing and remain neutral. Just remember there is a difference between being honest and being brutally honest, for example, when I buy new clothing I often ask Sy his opinion as to what he thinks and I tell him to be honest – bless his heart, when he say’s it doesn’t suite me I know he means it is not the right cut for my size and shape – truthful yet tactful!
Always making sure that you are truthful with people is a sign of respect. You should always respect yourself and those around you.
Stand up for what you believe in
Honestly, it is ok to be different and to believe in things that most of the general population do not. You do not have to go along with others just because you think it may be easier. To really stay true to yourself you must stand up for yourself and your beliefs. Stand up to peer pressure! We are all individuals and I think that sometimes we forget this. Diversity makes the world a better and more interesting place.
I mean, I believe in Faeries and many people find that odd – do I care – nope 🙂
Find your inner happiness
Each and every person has one or many things that makes then happy. It could be a place, a person, literally anything. We all have friends and family that make us happy or a special someone in our lives which is wonderful of course however, the key to true happiness is learning to not rely on others for your happiness but learning how you make yourself happy. I am not saying that you have to be by yourself but that it is important to know that you can be on your own and still be happy. For some it is reading, for other crafts, or it can be going back to nature and taking yourself on a little trip, it can be literally anything. Just find it and keep hold of it. Happiness is a precious thing!
It is ok to show your emotions
There is nothing so toxic as hiding your emotions from yourself or others. You do not need to hide how you feel. If you are upset, sad, ecstatically happy or indifferent it is ok to say. Why should you hide it. There is no need to pretend to everyone that everything is rosy or shit – it works both ways.
Emotions tie in with honesty, if you are honest with yourself and others then your emotions will show. Sometimes for men it is harder to show your emotions (sorry, known fact gents), that’s genuinely ok, I am not saying that you have to spill every little thing that you are feeling just that it is ok to share. If someone you know asks how you are, try being honest instead of the common, “all good thanks”. Try it. You will feel so much better not holding everything in.
Smile & Laugh
Like a yawn, both a smile and a laugh can be super infectious. If you walk down the street and give someone a smile, they will smile back (Ok not everyone, there are some grumps in this word however, do not pre judge as we don’t know what is happening in their lives or what they are struggling through). Whilst they are smiling someone else may see their smile and smile too thus starting the Mexican wave of smiles. Feels good! Smiling makes you feel happy and makes others feel happy.
Now for laughter – have you ever seen someone laughing so hard that although you have no idea what they are laughing at, the fact that they have found something so funny makes you laugh too. Not just a chuckle but a really belly laugh… laughter is soo good for you. They say that laughter is the best medicine and I would tend to agree. If I have had a bad day, Sy is wonderful at making me laugh and do you know what, all the tension just melts away and happiness once again takes over.
Meditation is great just to have a few minutes to yourself and gain some perspective on life.
You don’t need any special equipment or a special place in which to do it, just somewhere quiet where you can sit down and have some peace. No special mantra’s are required either, just sit down, concentrate on your breathing and let the humdrum of the world fade to nothing. Your mind will clear and you will become relaxed. You can meditate for however long you like. It can take some time to learn to shut life out but when you get there you will not regret taking the time. After meditation everything resets and you feel great 🙂 Why not give it a go and see how you get on.